I don’t require a tip on top of my rate. I created my rates to fulfill my financial needs and my own calculations on how valuable my time is at this point in my life and career in Companionship. Tipping in addition to my rate is always nice but I do not need it for financial survival.
However, when I am on an otherwise lovely rendezvous, nothing puts a frown on my face quicker than bad (or a lack of) tipping of waitstaff, valet, bellhops, and other service workers. For those of you who have never worked a job in this field, let me tell you, those tips are sorely needed. Especially at restaurants. Most state laws make an exception for waitstaff with regard to minimum wage– that is, they don’t get minimum wage but a base wage about half of what minimum wage is. Here in Illinois, minimum wage is $8.25/hour, so waitstaff receive a minimum wage of $4.50-$4.95/hour. The assumption is that customers will tip their server appropriately. If waitstaff does not receive tips, then they are given the normal minimum wage.
I have heard all manner of justification for not tipping waitstaff. There is no justification outside of service that is so egregious the law may actually have to be involved. For example, a waiter showing clear racial/ethnic/cultural bias against you, comments on sexual orientation, etc. Serious infractions. Having food cooked for you, brought to your table, cleared off your table…this is a privilege, not a right. Anything you pay another person to do in public that you can easily do yourself at home is a luxury.